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This blog is a collection of shower-thoughts that became info-dumps, clinical curiosities and rabbit holes, and most importantly, pictures of my dogs. Please enjoy!


We don't pick our special interests. They pick us.
The dog rescue worker brought out the puppy that ended up being my dog son, followed by his brother and rotated the two of them multiple times before I announced that I was stuck in indecision because I loved them both so much. When she reflected to me that it was clear to her based on my mannerisms and emotional expression that I liked one more than the other, I was truly astounded. How did this person know how I was feeling better than I did? Did it make sense to outsource
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When caring doesn't feel like caring
How low compassionate empathy can set the stage for moral OCD Most of us assume (and are taught) that caring about other people is a feeling, a warm, emotional pull that says, “Go comfort them. Go help. Go be there." We learn that good people are caring people, and to care means to be distressed enough by someone else's distress that you feel compelled to take action to alleviate it if you can. But that isn’t how everyone’s mind works, and if that's surprising to you, it's li
5 min read


Processing death as an autistic person
At my cousin's funeral the week before I turned 16, I was fixated on my anger about the people approaching his casket, decked out in...
8 min read


The gaps between ADHD coaching and therapy
Let's not beat around the bush: therapy is expensive. Insurance is expensive. Not everyone can access it, and we need change at a...
5 min read


Vulnerability languages
I am what some might call "an open book," by which I mean that in most contexts, disclosing information about myself doesn't bring up...
6 min read


When the fear of being "entitled" silences our needs
If you’ve spent any time in self-help spaces, parenting forums, or workplace “professionalism” conversations, you’ve probably heard some...
4 min read


What if relationships are in fact transactional? Rethinking reciprocity, care, and worth
The idea that relationships should not be "transactional" is in line with the anti-capitalist values around which I live my life and...
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Recovering from an eating disorder—again: an autistic perspective
For many people, recovery from an eating disorder is a long and winding road, full of self-discovery and unlearning harmful beliefs. But...
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