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This blog is a collection of shower-thoughts that became info-dumps, clinical curiosities and rabbit holes, and most importantly, pictures of my dogs. Please enjoy!


When caring doesn't feel like caring
How low compassionate empathy can set the stage for moral OCD Most of us assume (and are taught) that caring about other people is a feeling, a warm, emotional pull that says, “Go comfort them. Go help. Go be there." We learn that good people are caring people, and to care means to be distressed enough by someone else's distress that you feel compelled to take action to alleviate it if you can. But that isn’t how everyone’s mind works, and if that's surprising to you, it's li
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Processing death as an autistic person
At my cousin's funeral the week before I turned 16, I was fixated on my anger about the people approaching his casket, decked out in...
8 min read


The gaps between ADHD coaching and therapy
Let's not beat around the bush: therapy is expensive. Insurance is expensive. Not everyone can access it, and we need change at a...
5 min read


Vulnerability languages
I am what some might call "an open book," by which I mean that in most contexts, disclosing information about myself doesn't bring up...
6 min read


When the fear of being "entitled" silences our needs
If you’ve spent any time in self-help spaces, parenting forums, or workplace “professionalism” conversations, you’ve probably heard some...
4 min read


What if relationships are in fact transactional? Rethinking reciprocity, care, and worth
The idea that relationships should not be "transactional" is in line with the anti-capitalist values around which I live my life and...
7 min read


Recovering from an eating disorder—again: an autistic perspective
For many people, recovery from an eating disorder is a long and winding road, full of self-discovery and unlearning harmful beliefs. But...
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Late-identified giftedness 101
There is a tremendous amount of stigma around identifying as "gifted" as an adult. If you're thinking, "oh, poor gifted kids, must be so...
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